Even when all of these conditions are in place, there are things we must not overlook: mutual consent — both people genuinely wanting to be there — and both partners having an equal say in what happens, including starting, pausing, or stopping.

Protection in sexual intimacy provides comfort. But above all, it means being protected from sexually transmitted infections and, where relevant, unplanned pregnancy.

Recognizing that sex is not a power struggle — that both partners are equals — matters greatly. An unequal attitude, where one person thinks only of their own pleasure and disregards their partner's enjoyment, lowers the quality of the experience for both.

Now, back to the beginning: not all sex is the same. Because every sexual experience has its own dynamics, and every partner affects you differently. What's more, you yourself change and grow every day. Your needs and expectations are shaped throughout your life — and all of this naturally carries over into your sex life.